Looking for someone to take over modding this blog - if noone is found, the blog will be closing within the week


 [Image description: Background is 12 piece pie style color split with purple and blue alternating. Foreground is a photo of a parrotfish. Top text reads “ IF MY PACKER IS MADE OF CYBERSKIN “. Bottom text reads “ AM I A CYBERMAN? ”. End description.] (Doctor Who reference)


 [Image description: Background is 12 piece pie style color split with purple and blue alternating. Foreground is a photo of a parrotfish. Top text reads “ IF MY PACKER IS MADE OF CYBERSKIN “. Bottom text reads “ AM I A CYBERMAN? ”. End description.] (Doctor Who reference)



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Hi! My name is Kai. I recently submitted a trans* inclusive story to a pro-choice contest, and I need votes to win. Could your blog give me a signal boost? If not, I totally understand, but if you feel so inclined, here's the Facebook app. My story is listed as Kai, 19. www(.)facebook(.)com/naralprochoiceamerica/app_164246447110217
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Hey followers, check this out if you like :)


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My ex posted a status saying something about “a girl he used to date batting for the other team now.” One of my best friends (who is cis-female, not like it really means anything in this context) called him out for being immature using my proper pronouns through the whole thing. Love her to bits, I really do.

[Image description: Background is 12 piece pie style color split with purple and blue alternating. Foreground is a photo of a parrotfish. Top text reads “ “BATTING FOR THE OTHER TEAM”? “. Bottom text reads “ NOPE, JUST SWITCHED UNIFORMS ”. End description.]

My ex posted a status saying something about “a girl he used to date batting for the other team now.” One of my best friends (who is cis-female, not like it really means anything in this context) called him out for being immature using my proper pronouns through the whole thing. Love her to bits, I really do.


tuckingandotherskills:

How to make homemade breastforms

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fictionalfeather:

Okay can I talk about my binder for a sec?

I’m a 34D, so all binders are awkward for me. Small band, large cup. So I never get quite flat, but some lumpy monstrosity with underboob poking out. But this one gets me the closest to flat while being the most comfortable binder I own.

And it looks like a tanktop!! And it was $10!!

It’s got stretchy bits on one side, and a line of bra-like clasps on the other that you can adjust to three different sizes, again like a bra. I didn’t overheat or even really sweat even when wearing it under a shirt in early summer pre-storm humidity. And once you get yourself situated just right, you can’t tell the tank is actually a binder.

Bam. Awesome.

$10.

EDIT: Here’s the link!

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[Image description: Background is 12 piece pie style color split with purple and blue alternating. Foreground is a photo of a parrotfish. Top text reads “ FIRST TIME FEELING CONFIDENT GOING OUT AS A MAN“. Bottom text reads “”HAVE A NICE DAY, LADIES!””. End description.]


want to change your name for free?

thinkingofwhatsarasaid:

apply for civil indigent status!

trans* people (especially trans women of color) are usually in the lowest socioeconomic bracket. even if we’re employed, we usually need to do/buy extra things to feel comfortable with ourselves. surgery costs thousands of dollars, new wardrobes can cost hundreds, hormones can cost hundreds… and so do name changes. they’re typically around 300-400 dollars, actually.

but what if you can’t afford it? after all, getting jobs with your birth name can be hard when you present as a different gender! 

applying for civil indigent status (in leon county, florida) was as easy as pie. i asked for and received a form at the courthouse asking my income and current assets (as well as my name, social, address, etc.) i stated that i had $100 in the bank and received $500 per month. i turned in my form WITH my name change form (this is important) and was immediately approved - a $400 name change was completely free

call the clerk of courts for your county and ask about applying for civil indigent status! ask what income you need to have to qualify (i didn’t have any background checks, but be safe!). if you’re a broke trans individual like i am, it may come through for you!

remember -

  • your clerk of courts website should allow you to print off the indigence form and the name change form - it costs money to get them at the courthouse!
  • if your state requires an ad in the newspaper or being fingerprinted, a civil indigent status will probably NOT cover that. getting my fingerprints taken cost me $50.  (i would check with your local police station since they work with the courts, but it definitely won’t help with newspapers)

please reblog this - you might save someone hundreds of dollars that can now be used on other parts of their transition!

message me if you have any questions. :)

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Hey...I don't know if I should come to you for this, but I don't really follow too many other trans blogs. I keep getting forced out of the closet before I'm ready. I know for a lot of people getting people to know is half the battle, but its making my life hell. I accidentally came out in front of my sister, and she told my mom, and mom told grandpa. Ive already told them that if they're not willing to call me by my pronouns they can't out me to other people but they wont listen to me.
Anonymous
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Yikes, sounds like a rough spot. If they’re not respecting your pronouns I imagine that they aren’t respecting your boundries with who you’re out to either, which really sucks. The way you react depends on the context of your relationship with these people and what makes you comfortable; if I have to recommend anything, I would say that my advice is to continue to engage with them on how this behaviour is disrespectful, and don’t be afraid to refuse to respond to the incorrect pronouns and/or name. Cis people in our lives can have a lot of power over us, especially family, but never forget that you are worth it, you can survive, you are the one who carries yourself through the day and you are the one who will carry yourself to a better place. I hope you have community supports that can help you out, I recommend checking with your local LGBT centre or GSA (if you have one) to see if they have a support group where you can go and make friends/feel affirmed.

Good luck, write back anytime.